Hello Friend!
How often does this happen to you…everything is going well and all of a sudden you find yourself starting to feel negative, for what seems like “no good reason”? If your answer is “more than I’m comfortable with” read on for some effective ways to have this happen less regularly and with less impact.
Of course there may be reasons for these sudden bouts of negativity. Causes connected to hormones, life changes and life events that bring with them feelings and sensations we must learn to manage might explain changes in emotions, attitudes and even behaviors.
Apart from these sorts of causes though – which would have their own remedies and approaches, we are each capable of directing and even educating our emotions to a point where the “popping up” of negative feelings is infrequent and without serious consequences.
We CAN make better choices, control our thoughts and emotions and NOT be at the whim and fancy of sudden mood changes.
We may not be able to control what happens to us – hormones, changes, cycles or events, but we can surely control our responses.
21 Most Effective Tips:
1. KNOW your self. Know what is normal for you and be aware so when something pops into your mind and spirit you can detect it just about instantly
2. When some thought or emotion pops up, HAVE A PLAN: Know ahead of time what you will do and how you will react
3. Have a powerful affirmation, scripture or mantra to speak to this negative invasion….and speak it with authority and power. Say “no, I am NOT having this right now!” You’d be amazed at how quickly things turn around
4. Stop for a designated amount of time – say 2 minutes – and observe the emotion or sensation. Observe like a reporter would. What’s this about, ask yourself. Where did you come from? Why are you popping up now? What are you afraid of, pray tell? What are you trying to stop me from doing or feeling? Is this my intuition at work or fear at play?
5. Answer the questions above with complete, courageous honesty
6. If the answers are coming fast and you have the time to devote your full attention, do so. If not, make a commitment to get back to this “conversation” and make sure you do, within 24 hours.
7. Jump up if you’re sitting, start to walk if you are able, stretch if at all possible…whatever you do, change your body posture and get the blood flowing
8. Take several very deep diaphragmatic breaths. Get more oxygen circulating throughout your body
9. Listen to a piece of uplifting and ‘make your body move’ music. (Know what this would be ahead of time)
10. Start writing…about anything that pops up
11. Write out a long list of all the things you are grateful for
12. Think of who you can do something nice for and get started doing it
13. Read your favorite Bible verses/motivational book – especially the sentences you have underlined or commented about in the margin…the ones you KNOW will have impact
14. GO for a long walk, do some gardening, or exercise
15. Drink a full glass of water
16. Devote 5 minutes ( or any resonable # of your choice) a day to ‘bad moods’ if this is something that happens daily
17. Send an ecard or real card to someone you love and/or would like to cheer up
18. Go visit or call someone who is home or hospital bound
19. Completely ignore the negative thought or emotion – completely – and keep doing what you are doing
20. Re-label the ‘negative’ thought or feeling and call it your ‘stuff to work through’. (Then of course, work through it at a more convenient time.)
21. Devote as many minutes as you can to a powerful imagination session. Think of the most calming and positive experience you’ve had recently or would like to have soon…and let your imagination go free. Just be a kid again and have some fun day-dreaming using your powerful imagination.
Give some of these a whirl, try them on and see how they work. Having been plagued with negative memories and thoughts for so much of my life, I’ve learned to manage them and in some cases even make them my friend.
Remember you ae NOT your thoughts, or your feelings or even your beliefs…these are all aspects of who you are and who you will become. YOU are the one making the decisions, choosing the thoughts, feelings, attitudes and actions you wish to have. Choose wisely! 🙂
Right size those feelings and thoughts….put them in their place and show them who is in control!:-)
Take charge of your ‘bad moods’, make use of the ones that are useful as far as helping you to gain insights and wisdom about who you are and discard those that do not serve you well.
Finally, know this…when we’re creating habits that help, resistance is inevitable, so be prepared!
Wishing you an abundance of love, light and joy,
~♥~
