Hello My Friend!
When I wrote this last week I had no idea so many women would need it. The messages are still coming in… Perhaps it will bless you as well.
Last night – early this morning actually, I was stirred from sleep by a text. A ‘client turned friend’ was in major distress. She was in deep pain. Her situation is horrendous – deep n the midst of an extremely self-centered bunch of folks, some with varying degrees of ill-health, including alcohol abuse and all arrogantly making demands on her time, and her health, she found herself on a very dangerous and slippery slope…
So she reached out. That was smart.Here’s the biggest lesson of that 1.5 hour conversation. And I share it with you because it is SO VERY common…
She, her own mindset and choices, is the BIGGEST problem she is confronted with.It is her own choices to treat adults like they are children, to try to be the answer to all the challenges faced by a family. WOMEN tend to have a ‘superhero’ complex and we like to think we can fix anything and anyone. We love to be needed. And we end up being the biggest part of the enabling problem.Let GROWN people be grown…let them make their choices and deal with the consequences. Love them, tell them what you are able/willing to do and let them decide the rest.
Get out of the way of your loved ones’ growth. Check your mindset and your emotional “needs” – Are you encouraging the situation in anyway?
Wishing you an abundance of Peace and Wisdom,
Julette Millien
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